Not necessarily on me, but the complete and total judgment being passed onto my unborn baby boy. You know, the one that is the size of a small cabbage and currently in utero. Have any other mommy's experienced this while pregnant with baby #2?
It starts out innocent enough... "Oh Parker is such a good baby..." but then suddenly "...that second baby is going to give you a run for your money." Oh right, because all of the "good baby" genes must have been used up on Parker, right?
Or... "Parker is a good sleeper? Oh your second baby won't sleep well at all." Yes because that's how it works, only one child per household can be considered a good sleeper.
"Parker doesn't seem fussy. Well this next baby will be a whole different story." Really? Wow.
To the people who believe they have my unborn child, who is barely even three pounds in size, all figured out, here is my request: wait. Please wait until this baby is born. Please let him come into the world. Let him have a chance to be the little baby he was born to be without all of this unnecessary pressure to not be a good baby, or to not be a good sleeper, or to fuss, or to be everything the opposite of his brother.
Yes, I realize I am not re-creating Parker. Trust me when I say there is no scientific experiment going on in my womb to clone my first born. Little baby boy #2 will be a whole new personality with his own genetic makeup. And we can't wait to meet him! He may be a good sleeper, he may not. He may be fussy, he may not.
But just because, simply because, Parker is or is not one way does not automatically pin the opposite on this little baby.
So to those people who insist on telling me how he will be, please wait.
If you do feel compelled to say something, let me leave you with this. These words I heard today: "Parker seems like such an easy baby. That's so wonderful! I believe he will be a positive influence on his little brother." I can't tell you how much I appreciated hearing such a thoughtful comment.
If you're a pregnant mommy and you find yourself an innocent bystander in the unwanted judgment of your in utero baby, I'll share with you the response I give to each and every person who tells me what they think baby #2 is going to be like.
I simply respond, "I don't believe that." Said of course with a smile.